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Monday, August 08, 2005

Is this the beginning of the end? Or the end of the beginning?

I am now officially 29 years of age. It's the last year of my 20's, so I better make it a good one. So I started it off with a bang (and a few margaritas) and went out for dinner and drinks with a few good friends. The usual good time was had, but what I what I was really looking forward to was my annual "It's The Merry Widow's Birthday so let's take her on her annual birthday vacation" trip. It's been a tradition for my parents and me to go to Vegas for my birthday every year. I've spent every single birthday there since my 21st birthday. (Thanks, Daddy and Mommy!) But this year we decided that we needed a change. And I decided that I wanted to spend the beginning of my last year of my 20's in The Big Apple. And yeah, I had the best time of my life, I bought 8 million new purses, and I even got to eat breakfast at Tiffany's on 5th Avenue. OK, so maybe I just snuck a bite of my bagel that I had shoved into my new Coach purse while I was in Tiffany's, but still, a bagel is a breakfast food, so I think it counts. Anyway, I totally totally love NYC and now want to move there and have like 10 million of its babies. But I digress...

I am now officially 29 years of age. It's the last year of my 20's, so I better make it a good one. So after my trip to NYC, I flew out to the beautiful state of Colorado (hey, Big Heavy!) and went up to Breckenridge (10,000 feet above sea level) for a wedding. I had forgotten how high altitude affects one's ability to consume copious amounts of alcohol, so after 2 beers, I was pretty much toast. And anyone who knows me in real life knows that I can usually drink like a fish. But the good news was that no one can drink much at 10,000 feet above sea level, so I wasn't the only person doing the robot while the Polish band played the 8 millionth polka wedding song during the reception. But I digress...

I am now officially 29 years of age. It's the last year of my 20's, so I better make it a good one. Maybe it's time that I did something about spreading my husband's ashes. Before he died, he decided that he did not want to spend eternity in Texas. (Good man, he was...that's why I married him.) So we both decided that the best way to arrange his transport would be to cremate him so that I could easily move him to Colorado (where we met and got married) and I could spread his ashes there. Well, 2 and a half years later, I still hadn't done it. I thought of a million excuses as to why I couldn't do it: work, money, conflicting schedules with my in-laws, I had to wash my hair...you know, the usual.

But alas, I figured that if I was really gonna make this last year of my 20's count, then I really needed to finally close the DJ chapter and get myself (and my parents, and his parents, and his brother) all out to Colorado so that we could finally put him to rest.

So we did. While I was in Colorado, my parents, my in-laws, and my brother-in-law all met up with me and we drove to an undisclosed location in the mountains of Colorado. We did some hiking, found a beautiful spot at the edge of a small cliff that overlooked a lot of the 14,000 foot rocky mountains and spread his ashes. My father-in-law made a small cedar cross to stake into the ground, my mother-in-law brought lots of beautiful flowers to lay by the cross, my dad brought some of DJ's favorite chocolate for us to enjoy, and my mom brought the hugs and kleenex. My father-in-law read a passage from the bible (Psalm 31, I believe) and my mother-in-law read a small prayer. My dad spread the ashes as I looked out into the mountains, absorbing the beauty of it all, and breathing the fresh rocky mountain air. And I thought to myself, I am officially 29. This is the last year of my 20's and DJ would want me to make it a good one. So far, so good.

posted by The Merry Widow at 1:08 AM |

22 Comments:

Commented by Blogger mrtl:


The happiest of birthdays to you, MW. It sounds like you made it a wonderful tribute to yourself and to DJ's memory.

p.s. The bagel in Tiffany's totally counts.


August 08, 2005 2:36 AM 
Commented by Blogger Jessie:


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August 08, 2005 7:27 AM 
Commented by Blogger Jessie:


AWWW, sweetie, I am so glad its going great thus far! And I NY sounds really exciting! What kinda purses did you get?


August 08, 2005 7:27 AM 
Commented by Blogger Jessie:


AWWW, sweetie, I am so glad its going great thus far! And I NY sounds really exciting! What kinda purses did you get?


August 08, 2005 7:27 AM 
Commented by Anonymous debutaunt:


Hey babes. Hope this is the best year yet.


August 08, 2005 9:43 AM 
Commented by Blogger little sister:


Happy happy birthday, MW! Oh, yeah...sneaked bagel from Coach purse is totally Breakfast at Tiffany's :) And I bet you're every bit as pretty as Audrey Hepburn was - probably prettier, what with your Mexican heritage :)

It's the last year of your 20's, and that last paragraph shows you've made the most of a decade that a lot of people wouldn't be able to handle. I know I couldn't.

***hugs***


August 08, 2005 10:24 AM 
Commented by Blogger The Recovering Straight Girl:


Wow MW, you've been busy. I won't be so upset about you breaking up with me now.

Happy 29th year my dear; the best part is yet to come. Closing a chapter of your life is a difficult challenge and you are growing and flourishing every day. Your husband! would want you to live fully, as you are. You've paid him a great tribute and your love is felt by him every day.

It's the beginning of the begnning


August 08, 2005 11:45 AM 
Commented by Blogger Random and Odd:


Sure, come back and make me cry.

I love you MW...I'm glad you're home and making the best of it.


August 08, 2005 12:10 PM 
Commented by Blogger Nessa:


Happy Birthday! I hope you have a great 29th year!


August 08, 2005 1:49 PM 
Commented by Blogger Charlotte in Pa:


Annnndddd... she's back. With a tear-jerker post, no less! It's nice that you were able to carry out DJ's wishes - with his family and yours on hand. It sounds like it was very beautiful and meaningful. I hope that you had a VERY happy birthday. NYC rocks, eh? And take heart - the 30s aren't so bad....


August 08, 2005 2:17 PM 
Commented by Blogger Pissy Britches:


FUCK FUCK FUCK
why did you have to remind me that I am also 29 years of age.
we are in the same boat!
FUCK
that means next year is 30.
FUCK


August 08, 2005 3:30 PM 
Commented by Blogger Pissy Britches:


HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY!
I went on my rant and forgot to say the most important thing!


August 08, 2005 3:30 PM 
Commented by Blogger Big Heavy:


thanks for the shout-out!!

as always, you are well worth the wait.


August 08, 2005 6:26 PM 
Commented by Blogger SoozieQ:


Happy 29th Year of your life! Sounds like you started it off right.


August 08, 2005 10:01 PM 
Commented by Blogger Surfie:


Happy Birthday!!! May we all stay 29 forever! Just kidding. My 30s have been THE BEST times, so far, in my life. Oddly, I'm kind of looking forward for the 40s.

GREEN DAY - CLOSING TIME:

Closing time, every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end...


August 09, 2005 10:33 AM 
Commented by Blogger madmanan:


do it up girl, do it up!

happy belated birthday! and happy 29, happy end of your 20s!


August 09, 2005 4:23 PM 
Commented by Blogger Darbi:


I would just like to politely point out that "Closing Time" was originally written by a member of, and performed by the band Semisonic.

...I've never even heard Green Day's version...

:-D


August 09, 2005 8:33 PM 
Commented by Anonymous Pinky:


Love the purse, and happy BD to you!

And, didn't Leonard Cohen do "Closing Time", too? Or am I just out to lunch?


August 10, 2005 10:57 PM 
Commented by Blogger michaela:


you have such an amazing outlook on life. happy birthday wishes your way!!


August 11, 2005 11:22 AM 
Commented by Blogger Valerie:


I turned 29 this summer! This post is so nice. It's really made me think about starting to think about making my last year of my 20s something great!


August 11, 2005 7:39 PM 
Commented by Blogger Melanie:


Wow, what a sweet post. Hope you had a happy birthday and have a wonderful year. It only gets better from here. Trust me...


August 11, 2005 8:08 PM 
Commented by Blogger The Merry Widow:


Wow, thanks for the birthday wishes everyone!!! And sorry for the delay in posts...I've been living up my 29th year everyday this week. (And no, drinking was not involved. My liver is taking a break.)


August 12, 2005 9:03 AM 

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