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Thursday, March 16, 2006

...But I shot a man in Reno, just to watch him die.

Note to self: Don't judge people according to their jobs and/or lack thereof.

I am way too easily impressed by the stature of one's career. I guess it stems from my desire to get accepted into medical school, which, by the way, is going to be hard work. In case you haven't heard, medical schools only accept the creme de la creme, and I'm not too sure if I qualify to such an elite status. So when you tell me that you're a doctor, or a lawyer, or a professor of physics at MIT, I am instantly wowed. I have been witness to the level of difficulty required to attain such positions. In essence, my opinion is directly correlated with the level of education that one has attained. Yes, this is a very very wrong and close-minded way for me to think and I am quite ashamed to even admit that I have the tendency to think this way.

But rest assured, I have fallen off of my high horse.

Several months ago, I began dating a guy that I will refer to as "Dr. Rad." As indicated, he is indeed a doctor. Specifically, he is a Radiologist, hence the moniker. I was instantly attracted to this man's intelligence, wittiness, sense of sarcasm, and drive. "This man has goals, " I told myself. He knew what he wanted to do in life, and he dedicated himself to getting there. He worked hard and it payed off. After all, only the best of the best medical students make it as Radiologists. And that's exactly what I want in a doctor. But at the same time, during his quest to become the best of the best, he had become the cockiest mofo to ever walk the face of the earth. Convinced, he was, that anything I did, he could do better. Not only that, he has devoted so much of his life to school, he had forgotten how to be, well, human. He was insensitive, blunt, condescending, and BORING. So yes, this man had, what I had in my mind, the end all/be all of jobs, but it didn't take all that long for me to figure out that "the job doesn't make the man," and I quickly dropped him like a bad habit.

Conversely, I have become friends with someone (Guy #6) who has been "jobless" for the past 2 years of his life. And even though I thoroughly enjoy this person's company, I have to admit that I looked down on him, based purely on his job status.

But a recent turn in events from this past weekend has made my whole entire opinion of this person change completely. Ironically, my change in attitude stems from my own stupidity and lack of judgment. He and I made a few poor decisions (to put things lightly) this past weekend that ended with some very drastic consequences. And even though most people want to put the brunt of the blame on him, for the events that unfolded, I must admit that I am equally to blame in the entire situation. Me. The one with the great job and education. Equally to blame for the wrong decisions. As he. The one without the job.

And consequently, recent turn in events have been the catalyst in his (and my) decision to take it easy for awhile. (read: consume less C2H5OH.) Which, in turn has opened my eyes to an entirely different him. The person that I once wrote off, has become delightfully and surprisingly witty, and clever, and sarcastic, and intelligent. Well, I shouldn't say that he became these things, because one just can't become witty, and clever, and sarcastic, and intelligent over night, just like that. Obviously, these qualities were there all along, but they were masked by layers of Patron, Jaeger-bombs, and Budlight, which were further layered by my clouded, conceited judgement of his lack of job.

Moral of story? There are several:
1. The hardest lessons don't come from school.
2. The smartest people don't necessarily have the "smartest" jobs.
3. Don't judge a book by it's cover.
4. Don't drink cheap tequila.

I write this all, not for you, but as a reminder for myself.

posted by The Merry Widow at 9:29 AM |

9 Comments:

Commented by Anonymous Anonymous:


And Carmilla says, "We need to go drinking again and I need me one of those "mistakes". Hell, throw me the cheap tequila....

Seriously, we have not seen you in way too long.

And I must admit that I too am an "education snob", I like my men well educated. Except you know the guy I really like does not have a college education-go figure.


March 16, 2006 6:37 PM 
Commented by Blogger Darbi:


And *I* say
Forget the drinking...The Nude Potato and I need GROCERIES. But of course they always put those damn bars so near the HEB's... hmmm... conspiracy, I say! Either way, we'd love to see you soon, MW! We're taking a mini road trip this evening to CORN-ROW to the Molly's up that way for St.Paddy's. Let us know if you'd like to come along - and don't forget to wear your GREEN today!
*pinch*

Love,
Darbi


March 17, 2006 7:23 AM 
Commented by Anonymous Anonymous:


Oh honey, after transcribing what doctors say day in and day out, I can say without a doubt that some are pretty damn stupid (and scary).

Case in point: Head is normotraumatic and acephalic.


March 17, 2006 10:12 AM 
Commented by Anonymous Jade:


I'd just like to stick up for Dr. Rad by saying that he was probably an arrogant butthead before he went through med school. The difference is that before it was "ambitious" whereas now that he's become what he's wanted to be his whole life (which, I'd like to point out, is very sad if you reach the pinnacle of your life by the time your 25, 30, or even 35), he is only "obnoxious."

I havn't see you in forever! Hope all is well!


March 17, 2006 5:16 PM 
Commented by Anonymous Jessie:


M-Wid! Oh how I do love to visit your web site and find new posts, even if they are bitter sweet. I suppose in the end it is what we take away from our experiences that count the most!

Cheers!


March 20, 2006 3:56 AM 
Commented by Blogger Annejelynn:


AMEN


March 21, 2006 9:04 PM 
Commented by Blogger limpy99:


As an attorney, I can tell you that nothing impresses me less than other attorneys. I think Groucho Marx said it best when he said he wouldn't belong to any club that would have him as a member.


March 22, 2006 2:42 PM 
Commented by Blogger Fuzzball:


Thank you thank you THANK YOU for writing this post! It really pulled me out of the doldrums. You're the best! ;)


March 22, 2006 4:01 PM 
Commented by Anonymous some girl:


MW-

The other thing about Dr.s is that they can be terribly self centered, untrustworthy, and all around comeplete jerks. Who cares where you did your degree and how many people you saved last week if you can't figure out how to enter basic codes into a computer system so we can bill for your services?

I guess I am a touch jaded since I've been working at a hospital for a year and have regular interactions with Dr.s who are too good to figure out the most basic of computer systems. They throw their scribbled notes at the admin staff and expect everyone else to pick up after them. Then the Dr.s complain because they aren't credited with referrals etc. But I'm always like, hey, you can't use a computer, you don't get your f'in credits.

Okay, that was a bit of a rant...anyhoo...

Does it make me a geek when I read C2H5OH and didn't need to think about what it was?

Interested is seeing what happens with Guy #6.


March 23, 2006 8:34 AM 

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