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Monday, March 13, 2006

"...and he said someday I hope you get the chance to live like you were dying."

Someone actually had the nerve to tell me that they were wishing for terminal illness for themselves, so that they would have the chance to "live it up" before they died. Are you kidding me??? I've seen terminal illness...it's not as fun as you may think it is, buddy. Terminal ILLNESS treats you exactly how it sounds...it keeps you ILL. As in sick, not healthy, nauseous, tired, and in pain. And that's not how I, or anyone else that I know, or once knew, want to spend the last days of my life. If you really want to live it up, then take advantage while you still have your health. Take advantage while you have your freedom. Take advantage while you have the option to do whatever it is that you want to do. I tend to be a very tolerant girl, but I have no empathy, sympathy, or patience for anyone who would actually wish to be sick.

And as much as I despise that you actually made your wish known to me, I still pray every night for you to never see that kind of pain. I still pray for you to be safe, and healthy, and happy. Because that, my friend, are the kind of things for which I wish.

posted by The Merry Widow at 4:33 PM |


Commented by Blogger Annejelynn:

obviously your friend's statement/wish was spoken with complete ignorance as to what he/she was really stating...must watch too many movies romanticizing the concept. Should see Terms of Endearment! I too would hope for that friend that he/she never knows the pain of a terminal illness. Man - did you say something about it (without freakin')? It'd be hard for me to tactfully say anything, I imagine - but it'd be harder for me not to say anything, having watched my mother die over years and years' time.

March 14, 2006 1:30 AM 
Commented by Blogger The Merry Widow:

I've been trying to make a habit of keeping my mouth shut whenever someone says something stupid like that to me. I know me...and if I let myself respond to such stupid remarks, then I end up just getting emotional and rash with my statements. But luckily for me, I have a great friend who decided that she wasn't gonna let this guy's statements just pass her by and she decided to speak up on my behalf. At which point I joined her and let this guy know just how selfish I thought he was being. But still, I kept most of what I really wanted to say to myself. But only because I've learned in life that most people would rather learn their lessons the hard way, rather than heed what I have to say. Such is life.

March 14, 2006 10:17 AM 
Commented by Blogger limpy99:

I'm with you. Live it up while you're healthy. Waiting until you;re dying is just dumb.

March 14, 2006 1:52 PM 
Commented by Blogger little sister:

I admire you for your restraint, as you've seen it all regarding life and death issues. The nerve of a 'friend' to say such a thing! My hope is that person quickly sees the wisdom of not thinking that way!

I'm with L99 - live it up now! And if you're younger than 44 and healthy, really really live it up, because even being over 40 and mostly healthy makes it not as easy as it used to be to live it up ;-)

However, really cool bloggers like you make it lots more fun than it used to be :)

March 15, 2006 9:39 AM 
Commented by Blogger little sister:

and I must say one more time that I LOVE your profile photo!!!

March 15, 2006 9:40 AM 
Commented by Blogger Big Heavy:

amen lil sister!!

March 16, 2006 1:07 PM 
Commented by Blogger M:

I too have seen how terminal illness ravages a body. It is not as "lovely" as the song may make it sound. It was the most tiring, sad and depressing 3 years of my life. That is why now I take the adventures everyday. As I say a day without adventure is a wasted day.

May 03, 2006 6:02 PM 

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