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Wednesday, March 16, 2005

She works hard for the money, so you better treat her right.

Today I bought myself a fabulous purse. I figure that a fabulous person like me deserves to buy herself a fabulous gift every so often. And yes, I admit that I have a purse addiction. I LOVE purses. And not cheap ones for that matter. These are purses that require me to save money for a few months before I can afford to buy them. For the most part, I am quite responsible with my money. I pay my mortgage, I pay my utilities, I pay my medical/dental/vision/home owners/auto insurance, I pay off my entire credit card bill in full every month, and I even give to charity every month. I put money away for graduate school, retirement, and whatever emergency that may or may not come up. I never spend more in one month than I make in one month. And let me tell you, that's not a lot. I work in science...not a lot of money to be made in my field of work, especially without a PhD. This means that I have to be relatively frugal. I buy off brand clothing, food, gas, etc. So why is it, then, when I decide to buy myself an extravagant/expensive/name brand purse, the whole world comes down on me and judges how I spend my money?

There's only one person on this earth who knows how much money I have. Her name is Wanda. She does my taxes. And you know what? She could care less. She's probably the only person on this earth who doesn't make judgement based on my financial status. Yet everyone else, the people who assume they know how much money I have, judge me left and right. And whether they think that I'm rich or poor, they all come to the same assumption: The Merry Widow gets money from her parents.

Well, I'm here to set the record straight. I'm an independent woman and I work hard for my money. In fact, I worked really hard all last year in order to get a well deserved promotion/raise. This is how I pay for my purse habit. My parents haven't given me money since my last year in college. (Yes, my wonderful Daddy paid for my college. He worked hard to provide me with opportunities that he didn't have. I love him for that and am more grateful than you know or care to know.) Now this doesn't mean that my parents don't buy me gifts. I am, afterall, the center of their universe (aka only child.) I fully admit that they do spoil me with nice gifts, like purses that I can't afford to buy on my own. But still, I take care of myself, pay for myself, and have yet to ask them for a dime since the day I graduated from college.

So some people say to me, in their sarcastic tone, "It must be nice that you can waste your money on retarded expensive purses. I have to actually pay for important things, like my kids." Well la-dee-fucking-da. Yes, I realize that parenting is an awesome responsibility, both financially and mentally, and I commend you for making your kids your priority. That's how it should be and more parents should care for their kids as you do. But that doesn't mean that I don't deserve to buy myself a purse. In fact, you and your kid have nothing to do with me and my purse. And no, I don't know how much formula and diapers cost. But do you know how much chemotherapy costs? How about MRI's? How about funerals, for that matter? Guess what...I do. My husband had cancer and died. Remember? All of that stuff wasn't free either.

"You know you can't take that purse with you in the afterlife, right?" Yes, genius, I know that. You must be confusing me with my dead husband, because you see, I'm alive right now so I'm gonna enjoy my purse right now, while I still have the chance. Maybe you should spend a little more time enjoying the pleasures of life, and a little less time caring about what I buy. And then maybe, just maybe, I'll buy a purse for you too.


posted by The Merry Widow at 12:55 AM |


Commented by Anonymous Anonymous:

ahhh...the pure joy of buying a purse...expecially a FAB purse...i'm with you!!!

And I'm with you on people that "rub your face in THEIR kids"...i have a "friend" that does that to me all the time...it gets on my last nerve.

Enjoy...take care of yourself...and live life for you!

March 16, 2005 5:43 AM 
Commented by Blogger Dazed:

You tease us like that (us being fellow purse addicts!) and then end the post with NO PICTURE!?!! COME ON!!! Show us the goods!!!!!!!!

March 16, 2005 7:06 AM 
Commented by Anonymous Anonymous:

Nevermind what other people think. You have worked hard and are responsible with your money and deserve to treat yourself from time to time! Love your blog!

March 16, 2005 7:09 AM 
Commented by Blogger Pissy Britches:

Tell those people to take their smack talk and shove it up their ass. I am a very responsible chick with a husband, 18 month old and 2 full time step children that are 12 and 14. I also have a purse habit from hell. Not Wal-Mart purses. Expensive ones. I buy them all the time. I am also a shoe addict. I love shoes and purses. Leave us alone..we are just GIRLS trying to get our healthy addiction on!

March 16, 2005 9:06 AM 
Commented by Anonymous wdc:

Ok, not telling us anything about the purse is not fair! I too am a shoe and purse whore. LOVE THEM. And not payless shoes and purses. I have to save, save, save for the ones I love.
You might not be able to take the purse with you in the afterlife but you can't take the money you didn't spend on it either. And you may as well look fabulous in this life with a fabu bag.
Am loving your blog!

March 16, 2005 1:23 PM 
Commented by Blogger Bitchkateers Unite!:

I'm a big time purse whore. I don't have many, but what I do have is spensive. But motherfuckers, the good ones last. I had a RL big bag that I used to use for work/travel, then it became a diaper bag/purse. That damn thing lasted like 7 years. It still looks good. I could put it in the landfill and 19304823 years from now that damn Lauren bag would still be smokin.

You go with your purse, girl! But I'm also wanting details here. it's all in the details.


March 16, 2005 1:28 PM 
Commented by Blogger just muttering:

why other people should put so much time, effort and contempt in what you do with ur money is beyond me....and yet they keep at it.
Oh well who need 'em... Stay happy and enjoy that purse :)

March 16, 2005 2:37 PM 
Commented by Blogger mb:

I love purses and shoes as well. Luckily, Target has great shoes right now and Nine West is pretty reasonable. I got a Jerry Garcia tote this weekend, I think i'm going to use it as my diaper bag. I almost went with the Rasta bag that said "Lion of Judah" but I don't want to freak the other Mommies out any more than I already do.

March 16, 2005 7:21 PM 
Commented by Blogger The Merry Widow:

Sorry for not posting a picture! I went ahead and linked a picture in the post. I think it shows a blue purse...but I got mine in PINK!

March 16, 2005 11:26 PM 
Commented by Blogger Pissy Britches:

Pink! Pink is the most fabulous color ever. Especially for a Coach bag.
Love, love, love it!

March 17, 2005 10:37 AM 
Commented by Blogger Random and Odd:

Someone said "Retarded Purses"?


Hee hee, love the purse!

March 18, 2005 2:40 PM 
Commented by Anonymous sarcastic journalist:

You're just jealous because I get to change poopy diapers, you stupid money grubbing whore.

March 18, 2005 3:48 PM 

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